A young newlywed couple has gone viral on TikTok for sharing some habits they have instituted in their marriage, habits that others consider “controversial”, based on comments they have received on the social media platform.
“We’ve gotten backlash on a number of videos that we’ve posted regarding some of the things that we’ve mentioned that we do,” his wife Jaden McGrew told Fox News Digital via email.
McGrew and her husband, Andy, who live in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, shared a video on their joint TikTok account that highlights the marital habits they practice, habits that some people feel are over the top (watch the TikTok video at question at the top of this article).
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Between the couple’s habits: First, they share their location live with each other “24/7.”
Secondly, they share all passwords with each other and “have no secrets.”
The McGrews posted a video to their TikTok account that shared what other commenters feel is “controversial” about their marriage guidelines.
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Third, they shared that “hanging out only with the opposite sex” is prohibited in their marriage.
One TikTok user commented: “How often do you check those things? Having it is one thing, checking each other all the time sounds like a trust issue.”
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Another commented: “Tell me you don’t trust each other without telling me…”
“These are things that we agreed to in our relationship over time and from experience,” Jaden McGrew said.
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Another responded: “You almost got me! I don’t care who my husband dates…because I trust him.”
The McGrews say these guidelines have proven to work for them.
“These are things that we agreed to in our relationship over time and from experience,” Jaden McGrew said.
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“We never really sat down and came up with ‘rules,’ but it seems like that’s how people have interpreted it.”
The McGrews said they can be located “24/7” by sharing their locations live.
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She added: “These are just things that work for us at our current stage in life, and we were surprised to see how controversial they were!”
Noting that they are both Christians and their marriage is “rooted in our faith,” McGrew said these habits aren’t just based on their religion.
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“While we believe that marriage is the biggest commitment one can make and we want to protect our marriage, none of the things mentioned in the video are based solely on our faith,” he said.
“For example, location sharing is convenient and allows us to verify ourselves without having to wait for a response.”
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A Chicago clinical social worker and therapist weighed in on the issue, saying that while she respects that “what may work well for one couple may not work well for another couple,” she found the guidelines “pretty strict.”
The McGrews say they “have no secrets” and know each other’s passwords.
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“I have worked with post-infidelity couples who have put these rules in place because trust has been broken,” therapist Kelley Kitley told Fox News Digital by email.
Starting a marriage this way seems to indicate a “lack of trust,” Kitley also said.
“Every relationship, including marriage, should have some sense of privacy, though nothing that could hurt the other person,” Kitley continued.
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“These ‘rules’ seem to have the other person under a microscope, hinting that they are entering the union without trust.”
Kitley offered the following three habits and practices that newlywed couples should engage in, in her opinion.
1. Make sure you are sexually intimate once a week.
two. Greet each other in the morning and/or at the end of the day with a hug and a kiss.
3. Send text messages throughout the day to let your partner know that you are thinking of him/her.
A Chicago-area psychologist said one habit newlyweds should practice is to greet each other in the morning and at the end of the day with a hug and kiss.
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However, some people on TikTok applauded the young couple’s guidelines.
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“I feel like these are all normal things,” one person commented.
Another commenter said: “Those are wise decisions.”
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Another person wrote: “Are these things controversial? Here I was thinking [they’re] just handy.”
Deirdre Reilly is a Senior Lifestyle Editor at Fox News Digital.
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